{"id":2834,"date":"2022-05-27T10:14:43","date_gmt":"2022-05-27T07:14:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/meta-morphosis.gr\/b-the-family-the-source-of-human-tragedy-a-common-secret\/"},"modified":"2022-05-27T10:19:05","modified_gmt":"2022-05-27T07:19:05","slug":"b-the-family-the-source-of-human-tragedy-a-common-secret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/meta-morphosis.gr\/en\/b-the-family-the-source-of-human-tragedy-a-common-secret\/","title":{"rendered":"B\u2019 \u2013 The Family, the source of Human Tragedy (a common secret)"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u00a0 am 72\u00a0 years old, and I have lived in 4\u00a0 different countries with different cultures.<\/p>\n

I\u00a0 spent my\u00a0 early years in Egypt, my\u00a0 adolescent and my adulthood in Montreal Canada, while I also did 3 years of higher studies in London England. Finally, I\u00a0 moved to Athens where I spent 25 years. During the last 4 years I have been living in Montreal Canada, in order to supplement my years of residence so as to receive part of my old age pension in Greece.<\/p>\n

What I want to emphasize here is the fact that during the 72 years of my existence, what has impressed me the most is the \u2018\u2019social dystopia\u2019\u2019 and the \u2018\u2019spiritual vacuum\u2019\u2019 which encompasses the everyday lives of people, especially in the West. A dystopia which affects all ages and all social classes. Even more important is the fact that the epicenter of this \u2018\u2019social dystopia\u2019\u2019 is\u00a0 to a large degree within the \u2018\u2019family unit\u2019\u2019, which theoretically is the social space where one can find solace, a spiritual uplift and an existential stability.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the metaphor of the Holy Family as it appears in Christian and Judaic sacred texts.<\/p>\n

Having worked as a private tutor to young people for many years, I have been given the opportunity to observe closely the way different families function on a personal level, especially as this\u00a0 relates to the upbringing , the psyche and the personality formation of young people through time.<\/p>\n

The conclusion that I have arrived at\u00a0 after these personal encounters with the various families was that the fashioning of a child\u2019s character, especially within the family environment , has produced a very negative impact\u00a0 and instability to\u00a0 a\u00a0 balanced\u00a0 human thought process, the cohesion of their personality and their freedom for personal expression, whether in the spiritual, the mental and even in the erotic sphere of human existence.<\/p>\n

Essentially, the family functions as the mouthpiece for the directives of society\u2019s establishment, formulating developments and everyday practices which would acquiesce to the social and economic prerogatives of society\u2019s\u00a0 establishment, the political, religious, economic and cultural one.<\/p>\n

The family plays the role of the security guard or even that of the\u00a0 pimp for the elite classes, in order to subjugate people in general, both adults and the young.<\/p>\n

The most effective social tools for realizing this one-dimensional and despotic human development in shaping the personality of a child and later on of an adult, are the psychological inputs of \u2018\u2019guilt\u2019\u2019 and \u2018\u2019social isolation\u2019\u2019, which touch upon and stimulate the subconscious in order to define the conscious of a person.<\/p>\n

The social prerogatives are the\u00a0 castration of the personality of young people and the dehumanization of adults. The creation of individuals without a coherent personality or a dialectic thought process, without the fortitude and the incentives to prescribe and activate their own potential reality, and their own personal expectations and dreams.<\/p>\n

The protagonists of\u00a0 this \u2018\u2019existential crime\u2019\u2019\u00a0 are first the parents, then the relatives, and later on all the people who directly influence a person\u2019s everyday activities, directly or indirectly.<\/p>\n

We therefore witness social pressures and mind control inputs from many societal actors who are being supported and reinforced by the human insecurity of becoming ostracized by their close social environment, and\u00a0 in essence by society at large. A very good and concrete example during the present times\u00a0\u00a0 is the fact that people are being ostracized and isolated because they are not willing to inject themselves with the experimental drug for Covid 19.<\/p>\n

The consequences of these intense social pressures coming from a close social environment like the family, but also from society as a whole, predisposes to serious psychological dysfunctions to young people as well as adults.<\/p>\n

People do not feel at ease and free with their everyday existence as well as with their natural faculties as creative entities. They are not mentally provided with the motives and the incentives to recognize what they really want and are searching for as priorities for a fruitful life.<\/p>\n

In order to temper or dampen this absolute and one dimensional control, individuals demonstrate symptoms of psychopathy which express themselves through acts of violence, both physical and psychological. Through extreme competiveness and despotism, through avarice and opportunism, and finally through their own psychosomatic disintegration due to their life patterns and their alienation from their natural social needs.<\/p>\n

With the use of narcotic substances, opiate medication and addictive sexual behavior, people have chosen to live a virtual reality which does not reflect their natural tendencies for \u2018\u2019socialization\u2019\u2019 , a societal factor which has\u00a0 supported human development for thousands of years. They exclude the human feelings of empathy, of eroticism, of peaceful coexistence with their fellow human being and the axiom of an ideological and cultural pluralism.<\/p>\n

In my 72 years of existence, I have very rarely encountered a family, of whatever social class or culture, which was functioning harmoniously and democratically, which would act as a societal channel for intellectual tranquility and spiritual regeneration.<\/p>\n

Starting from my own family which is representative of the large majority of families within its main parameters, individuals function within this societal construct more as obstacles for the happiness and the personal development of the family members instead of their social promoters.<\/p>\n

In one sentence we could generalize and state that the large majority of people after childhood demonstrate\u00a0\u00a0 to a certain degree symptoms of a disturbed psyche or symptoms of a psychosis.<\/p>\n

The fact that a large section of people, young and old,\u00a0 rich or poor, accept passively this everyday social instability in all of its facets, consuming on a daily basis antidepressant medication, narcotic drugs\u00a0 and strong alcoholic beverages, becoming addicted to these substances in order to cope with or dampen all these existential anomalies and distortions, is enough proof that that which dominates the psyche of human beings is psychopathy and not temperance and sociability.<\/p>\n

That which supersedes as criteria for human\u00a0 development are the \u2018\u2019virtual social tenets\u2019\u2019 or the \u2018\u2019everyday lies\u2019\u2019 which not only cover up but also justify society\u2019s dystopia and human tragedy which we are all experiencing . Everyday lies could be the \u2018\u2019artificial\u2019\u2019 or \u2018\u2019prescribed\u2019\u2019 social roles, within and outside of the family, as well as the various ritualistic public demonstrations, religious\u00a0\u00a0 or\u00a0 patriotic, which in theory embody society\u2019s unity.<\/p>\n

The societal factors which amalgamate the family unit are not the peaceful coexistence of its members within the context of freedom of expression and of feelings, but a coercion for blind compliance to a common social stance, which is \u2018\u2019we\u2019\u2019 as independent and self-sufficient social entities versus the \u2018\u2019others\u2019\u2019 who are classified as opponents and not as fellow human beings.<\/p>\n

This is the common formula or attitude so that family members would accept passively that which deflects them from everything which inspires them as a normal and creative life which would liberate them emotionally and mentally.<\/p>\n

This \u2018\u2019cancerous\u2019\u2019 existential reality has a serious impact on all of society, the socially privileged as well as the underprivileged ones. The difference rests on the fact that the socially privileged people are empowered with many material defenses and influential societal positions to cover up their everyday madness and\u00a0 existential tragedy, while the ordinary person, who is not socially privileged, constantly faces society\u2019s rebuke for lacking a viable social status.<\/p>\n

The\u00a0 young people I have taught as private tutor and who most of them are married with children , are to a large degree problematic personalities due to the distorted life experiences and the repression which they have experienced as\u00a0 children within the family , and later on as adults within a highly competitive and inhumane societal environment.<\/p>\n

That which prevails\u00a0 today in the \u2018\u2019psyche\u2019\u2019 of most human beings is a condition of \u2018\u2019bipolarity\u2019\u2019 which reveals itself through a variety of extreme psychosomatic symptoms. I have personally witnessed many cases of hysteria, manic depression, anorexia, self-punishment, schizophrenia, suicidal tendencies, as well as extreme acts of violence towards almost everyone else.<\/p>\n

We witness intense emotions and behavior of\u00a0 extreme euphoria and bouts of extreme violence, diagnostic\u00a0 indicators of \u2018\u2019bi-polarity\u2019\u2019. Here we also have to mention the human condition of an\u00a0 extreme emotional expression of \u2018\u2019exclusive devotion\u2019\u2019 towards a particular person which underlies a fixation for absolute control and manipulation of the other.<\/p>\n

There aren\u2019t any adequate and effective social frameworks to activate a\u00a0 societal reformation and an effective exit from this \u2018\u2019social dystopia\u2019\u2019 and this \u2018\u2019human tragedy\u2019\u2019 which has been prevalent for thousands of years.<\/p>\n

There aren\u2019t\u00a0 these societal preconditions and social instruments in place where the individual is able to\u00a0 develop as a social unit , the moment that\u00a0 all social reforms in the past have mainly focused on the material requirements of human beings and not on their existential quests .<\/p>\n

The responsibility for this \u2018\u2019human tragedy\u2019\u2019 of thousands of years rests to a large degree on the family unit and the critical role it has played in alienating the individual from its inherent nature as a free and creative entity which has the potential to improve its own life and the quality of life of all of society.<\/p>\n

Sadly, young people have always been the pawns of society as a whole , and its establishment in particular, but more importantly young people have always been the pawns of their own families.<\/p>\n

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